Are You With Your Partner Only Out Of Sympathy, Feelings Of Guilt Or Fear?

If you stay with your partner primarily out of compassion, you might want to consider whether it is best for both of you or whether it might not be better to end the relationship.

If you’ve only been dating your partner out of pity, guilt, or fear, now is the time to ask yourself what this really brings you.

You are most likely not happy and your relationship is not based on love. Sometimes compassion with the partner and feelings of guilt go hand in hand.

We can feel guilty for many things: for example, that he is a very good person, he loves us very much and of course that we would do him great harm by the end of the relationship. 

Yet it is about situations of abuse and the fears that we have and that lead us to hold on to the relationship. Perhaps there is an emotional dependency that does not allow you to let go.

If you stay with your partner out of compassion and guilt, you will hurt them

If you are only with your partner because you feel sorry for your partner and feel guilty for telling them you want to give up the relationship, remember that even if you don’t want to see it, you will give them a lot causing greater damage.

This person doesn’t deserve to be with someone who isn’t completely honest with them. Because you no longer love her, you want to leave her, but feelings of guilt and compassion come over you and let you deviate from your plan.

Man has the great power to be empathetic, which can play for our advantage or against us. The moment we want to leave our partner, it can be that his tears and sadness make us feel guilty.

This is something everyone wants to avoid, but it is part of it and shouldn’t be an obstacle to making a decision that actually benefits both of them.

• On the one hand, you will stop being with someone out of compassion and you will stop maintaining a relationship that is based on guilt, not love.
• On the other hand, you will allow that person to be free to live a real love.

Even if we believe that breaking breaks will always make you lose, the truth is that there is often something to be gained.

Are you still with your partner out of fear?

It is completely different when you are still with your partner out of fear instead of pity.

Because what is the origin of this fear? Perhaps you have expressed your intention to break up and have been threatened? Are you afraid that he will hit you, which he always does?

Fear can paralyze you in such situations. However, it is very important to take heart to put an end to this situation.

The final decision is, of course, yours.

If you fear to be left alone and no longer find a partner, then one can speak of emotional dependence.

A problem that affects a large part of this society and for which professional help is needed.

You will find out that in reality you don’t need anyone to be happy, and you can break up with this relationship without being afraid of anything.

Draw a final line

If you’re only with your partner out of pity, guilt, or fear, you should  draw a final line,  this is the only healthy way out.

Not only will these 3 feelings combine to create more problems with your partner, it can also make the relationship very toxic  just because you avoid breaking up with it.

We need to understand that it is natural to feel pity, guilt, or fear, but none of these emotions can harm us if we don’t let them be.

It is our duty to face these feelings because only then will we stop pursuing a relationship that makes no sense. We limit ourselves and also prevent the other person from being happy.

If you stay with your partner out of pity, guilt, or fear, think very carefully about what good this situation is to both of you and you will see that it is actually causing you much more harm.