Is Your Partner Manipulative? How To Find Out
Do you feel that your partner is manipulative and manipulates you and other people through their behavior? Find out!
People who are manipulative can have characteristics of sociopathy or psychopathy and in most cases their only love is themselves. We give you 6 tips to look out for.
How do I know someone is manipulative?
A person who acts manipulatively bends people in his social environment in a perfidious way, so that his own opinion aligns with the opinion of the manipulative person.
A person who is manipulative breaks your self-esteem. Recognize the manipulation and break up with such a partner!
But how can you tell that a person is manipulative ? We have summarized 6 characteristics by which you could recognize that your partner is manipulative and does not do you any good as a result. A manipulative partner is a clear reason for separation! Pay attention to the following features:
He is manipulative and makes himself a victim all the time
When you partner with a manipulator, whoever is to blame for an argument becomes a victim. If he is guilty, chances are he may insist that even after long discussions, the mistake is not his own.
Most likely, such manipulative people will always find a primary cause or a third cause to distract the error from themselves. If they have no excuses, they will show themselves to be a completely repentant person and then blame others for the damage they do.
He focuses on your weaknesses and shortcomings
To be sure that you will always stay with him , he will constantly remind you of any of your shortcomings that you may not have, and then make you believe that you actually have or are making those mistakes.
If your partner is manipulative, you will see that he is the only person he can love and then make you feel like nobody will love you but him for your mistakes. That then makes you doubt yourself, even though you should actually know better.
The result of this is that at some point you will believe yourself that only he will ever love you and that you will never be able to have another partner besides him.
It creates resentment towards other people
One infallible way a manipulative partner must ensure to ensure that only you can belong is to make up stories or get people to fight and quarrel with one another.
This leads to arguments and discussions in your family and friends. Sometimes he becomes so convincing that you will believe him even when your entire social circle moves away from you.
In the long run, this will isolate you socially and that’s exactly what he wants: you have no one left but him.
He reacts violently when he feels cornered
When he is under a lot of social pressure and feels that he may lose a discussion, the manipulative partner changes completely to the negative. Although they always try to show themselves to be calm and serene people, their reaction is aggressive when they feel cornered, ridiculed, or degraded.
You will notice changes in his expression and tone, and his choice of words will be extremely offensive. In the worst case, such individuals can use physical force to achieve their goals. Keep your distance from this person so that the physical violence does not hit you!
He will make decisions for you and make you think that you are free to choose
Manipulators do not allow the decision you have made to differ from your own desired decision and therefore they look for a way to subtly influence your decision-making.
In order to achieve this, the other alternatives must be presented negatively, as a risky or simply bad decision. In return, they give a lot of positive arguments for their position, so that his decision seems the best of all. In this way he wants you to make decisions just like him and believe that it is your decision.
He will do everything so that you do not leave him
Manipulators will always look loving to you on the outside. However, he will remove you from your loved ones and friends through his manipulative behavior, buy you luxury items, and take you to expensive places so that you never want to leave him. He can hear you, but he will never listen to you.
He will make everything look rosy, but if you want to contradict one of his decisions or make a decision for yourself without asking him first, all of a sudden you will discover a completely different person in him.
He is very impulsive and manipulative
When you are with such a partner, you will find that when they feel like they are out of control, they are able to do things that hurt you, that humiliate you, and that make you feel bad.
Manipulators are people who are able to threaten you with intimate photos or videos, for example, and put your family in danger. Unfortunately, this situation can lead to physical violence. Are these enough reasons to break up with such a person? If you can’t do it on your own, get help!
