Repentance Doesn’t Just Mean Tears, It Means A Change

Repentance doesn’t always have to be negative, as it allows us to get to know each other and to mature. Nevertheless, we should measure this action so that we don’t choke on it.

Repentance is an emotional state that many take lightly. You have probably heard more than once that someone does not regret anything that has been done or said.

This attitude is far from desirable because repentance makes it possible to change and learn from mistakes in order to act with dignity, respect, and emotional maturity.

Living means accepting mistakes and learning from them in order to wisely avoid them in the future. Those who do not regret accept their mistakes, experiences, insults or actions that should not have happened.

Psychology of repentance

In a relationship, be it with the life partner or with friends, it often happens that the partner strongly regrets a very painful act.

He expresses this very emotionally and moaning, but no change occurs. After a short while, the same topic repeats itself and you notice that the repentance has not been sincere. Why do we act this way?

The following aspects can shed some light on these situations.

Lack of responsibility or negation

Young people often have this attitude. They assure that they have regretted something, but we still do not notice any honesty in their expression and no change occurs.

• Repentance comes with a degree of responsibility and should be really honest.
• Many prefer to deny what happened and think that it is not that bad. This is a clear sign of a lack of maturity.

If nothing wants to be changed

“I know that I hurt you and that I was wrong, but I am not ready to change things and prefer to leave everything as it is.” This attitude is also typical of a selfish, stubborn character.

• Those who refuse to change are incapable of adapting to the flow of life, development, and destiny.
• Those who do not regret in the course of their life are probably unaware that they have hurt someone.

Not noticing mistakes is a kind of denial. But certain things have to be changed in order to live in harmony and not hurt anyone.

Whining alone is not enough. Those who feel sincere repentance also change.

Repentance makes us better

Repentance doesn’t necessarily have to be a sign of mistake, but an indication that we can do better. 

• Mistakes are not always responsible, sometimes we consciously take certain paths to avoid people who are not good for us.
• Repentance is part of the learning process and should be viewed as normal, not negative.

An example : Your relationship wasn’t particularly happy. You have suffered a lot from it, but you do not regret having experienced it. This experience shows you that sometimes it is better to be alone than in bad company.

• Repentance is an existential awakening that brings us into awareness of certain actions, thoughts, and decisions. 
• However, repentance shouldn’t become an obsession that makes life difficult.

The first step is repentance. Then you should analyze the causes and consequences in order to be able to make changes so that the same or similar situations do not repeat themselves.

Excessive suffering makes no sense if you learn nothing from it.

• Sometimes you also regret not having done or said something.
• In this case the solution is very simple.

If your regrets are existential (“I regret not telling him my feelings”; “I regret not making the trip”, etc.) then it is not worth adding to the suffering because the solution lies on the Hand.

All you really need is COURAGE.

Living means taking the right path, accepting mistakes and experiences, and satisfying emotional needs.

So don’t doubt:  pick up the phone and call, buy the gift, reserve the tickets, take the opportunity to be happy …